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Stress Awareness

Stress Awareness

Stress can impact on you in many ways and can have a significant effect on your emotional, mental and physical health. A certain amount of stress can be healthy and can aid your productivity; however, experiencing high levels of stress regularly can be detrimental to your personal life, your professional life, and your overall well-being. To assess the effects stress is having on your emotional health and functioning please click on the link and complete the self-assessment survey.

What causes stress?

Needs

If we take a look at Maslow’s five stage model which simplistically demonstrates what is needed for an individual to be able to fulfil their full potential; what is clear is if any of the five needs are affected a person’s ability to self-actualise is greatly obstructed and consequently could create distress.

For example, if your basic needs were affected by illness or financial issues this then could present the threat of not being able to provide food and shelter which then could potentially affect your need for security. Also, if there were relationship issues this could affect your need for a sense of belonging, which in turn could greatly affect your self-esteem and confidence. Therefore, these five fundamental stages are necessary for you to achieve your potential and feel at your most content and happiest.

Trying to address and change the areas of your life that are affecting you can feel at times impossible. Often people are not aware of how unhappy they are in a particular area because the alternative may feel too overwhelming, yet there are still lots of practical things you can do to manage the amount of day-to-day pressure that you are under.

  • Time management is the foundation for there to be balance between your working hours, your personal life and for you to have time for rest and play. 
  • Being able to assertively communicate how you are feeling with others and being able to say ‘no’ is the key to healthy relationships.
  • Identifying your triggers and mindfulness practice can help you to focus on the present and can also help you to not get drawn into mind chatter or drama related behaviour.
  • Looking after your physical health by exercising and healthy eating can help lessen the impact of stress on your overall mental health.

When you identify, address and make changes to the areas of your life that you are unhappy in. You will build upon your emotional resilience, which will give you the ability to adapt and bounce back when something difficult happens in your life.

 

If you have enquiry about Glister’s counselling service or if you would like to make an appointment, please do not hesitate to get in touch. For details on how to make contact please click HERE.

 

What does self-worth mean to you?

Worth

 

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: ‘What kind of man are you looking for?’ She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, ‘Do you really want to know?’ Reluctantly, he said, ‘Yes.’ She began to expound, ‘As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can’t do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man… or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’ The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, ‘I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.’ He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, ‘I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is a family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will recognise himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.

God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.’ When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, ‘You are asking a lot.’ She replied, ‘I’m worth a lot.’ – Unknown

 

If you have enquiry about Glister’s counselling service or if you would like to make an appointment, please do not hesitate to get in touch. For details on how to make contact please click HERE.

Glister’s proof-reader.

Proof-reader

 

I would like to give a huge thank you to Laura Ball www.lauraballtranslator.eu for proofreading my website. Laura was refreshing to work with. I greatly appreciated her efficiency and sensitivity. My website feels like an extension of me and I had reservations at the thought of another person revising what felt like my baby! Laura’s amendments polished my grammar and writing style without taking anything away from the content. In the process I also learnt a lot about how I write. Laura highlighted areas in my writing that I was not aware of. Her guidance regarding my overuse of certain words and the structuring of my sentences has been enlightening.

In all areas of my life I have a passion for growth. I am particularly fascinated with how we internally process our thoughts and feelings and relate to others. I think you would agree that this can be challenging! I often use the model of the Johari Window to explain to my clients how counselling can help them to make sense of the unknown areas of themselves and their interpersonal relationships. Whichever area of your life you gain awareness, this will allow for greater functioning. With the help of Laura’s expertise I now have more awareness and functioning with my writing style; thank you Laura.

If you have an enquiry about Glister’s counselling service or if you would like to make an appointment, please do not hesitate to get in touch. For details on how to make contact please click HERE.